Mr. BJ: the upDATE

The upDATE on my blue juice experience is, surprisingly positive.  This young man is well beyond his age when it comes to the qualities of a gentleman.  Although he was half an hour late, I didn’t complain, because I’m often fashionably late.  Also him being late, gave me time to cruise the aisle of Barnes & Noble.   Another FAB past time of mine.

Happy hour turned into dinner and drinks and three hours of conversation.  Honestly, I did not think BJ and I would have much in common, given the 10 year age gap between us.  Especially since I’m the senior party.   However, he is mature for his age and can hold his own.   He is still young though.  He hasn’t found himself yet, and I didn’t expect that he would have.  I’m in my mid-30s and I have yet to find myself.  I’m still searching for the “real” Dani. 

He is passionate about helping people, especially the youth in his community.  He’s from Oaktown.  North Oakland.  Although he attended school in Berkeley, he calls Oakland home.  He currently resides in Oakland as well and hopes to find a career where he can give back to his community.  This resonated with me because given his age, I was surprised he already had his eye on giving back and not on dollar $ign$.  To quote Mr. BJ, “if I was happy with $800 in my bank account, having $800,000 is not going to make me any more happy.”   Sounds like a man with some substance, if you ask me. 

Too often I run into these men with (or even without) money having dollar bills being their main goal in life.  I rarely meet a man who is doing something (or desires to do something) because he is passionate about it.  Honestly, most of the men I meet are always talking about how to make their next dollar.  Even more depressing, is that none of these men have sense of community or recognize the importance of giving back to the community and especially protecting and guiding our youth.  So, to hear a young man of 24 years (yes, he’s only 24 and just made 24 in November).  To hear him discuss his ideal career, and with such passion and substance, was refreshing.   It gave me a much-needed optimistic boost required in dating. 

So, I’ll be seeing some more of Mr. Blue Juice.  Oh yea… the blue hair was gone.  It was temporary and he said he would never show up to a date with me with crazy hair color.  Unless of course I was okay with it.  He has an eclectic sense of humor.  He is a sweet guy.  Handsome, smart, huge amount of potential and for the meantime, the perfect candidate in getting my “groove” back (no, mom, not that type of groove).   Stella was on to something when she decided to date the much younger Winston. 

Single and the Town, logging off and getting ready for my next date.  This time, a basketball game with something old.  Tune in this weekend for that upDATE, or maybe a downDATE.  We’ll see.


About SingleandtheTown
I am a simply fabulous thirtysomething divorced mother of three beautiful children starting my career as a lawyer in the San Francisco Bay Area. I love good food, people watching and comedy. Hence the decision to chronicle my outrageously comedic dating experience in the Town. Yep, that's right. Oaktown! Born in Oakland and raised in the East Bay, my dating life is as diverse as the Bay.

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